Calming Strategies That Help You Find Inner Peace !

Finding inner peace in the modern world is a significant challenge. Everything about modern society feels like an obstacle to experiencing peace of mind. But there are ways to find and maintain inner peace. 

Inner peace is a choice, and many of your habits determine how much peace you experience in your daily life.

Experience inner peace and enjoy life on a deeper, more satisfying level:

1.     Focus your attention on those things you can control- Why worry about those things you can’t control? It sours your mood and makes you less capable.

·                   Literally ask yourself, “Is this something I can control? Will worrying be beneficial in any way?”

2.     Spend time in nature. The original humans didn’t live in a 3-bedroom ranch and ate microwave popcorn. Take a long walk in the park or spend a weekend camping. You’ll feel dramatically different compared to sitting in a building 24 hours every day. There’s something peaceful about spending time among the birds and the trees.

3.     Be true to yourself. Few things are more disconcerting than living a life you weren’t meant to live. It continuously gnaws away at you. Live a life that’s congruent with your values.

·         It’s too easy to allow society dictate your choices. You don’t have to spend your life on a career that’s impressive to others. You don’t have to chase after a fancy house. Make your own decisions about what’s most important to you.

4.     Eat nutritiously. You might not realize how bad you feel because you’re so used to it. Try eating the way you know you should for just a week. Note the change in how you feel.

·      Now try eating some junk food and see what happens to your mood and your overall sense of well-being. You’ll feel like you’ve been run over by truck.

5.     Exercise regularly. Have you ever noticed how great you feel as you roll your mat back after a great yoga or stretch session? Exercise feels good, and you feel good about yourself for doing it. 

6.     Do something nice for someone else. This is a great way to take your focus off of yourself. You become more aware that others are struggling, too. When you are kind, you receive kindness in return. You’ll also feel a sense of pride and satisfaction when you help someone else.

7.     Be assertive. Be open and forward with your needs and desires. You’re not only more likely to get what you want, but you’ll also feel more in control of your life. Being passive results in having less control, which runs counter to inner peace. Be bold without being aggressive.

8.     Meditate. Meditation is calming. It also helps to see life and its challenges more accurately. Things are often better than they seem. Meditation can prevent your mind from making a situation seem worse than it really is.

9.     Avoid trying to change others. You’ll have as much success trying to change the weather. It’s hard enough to change yourself. How will you ever manage to change someone else?

All the accomplishments in the world can’t replace inner peace. Avoid chasing after those things that society has determined to be important. Decide for yourself and live the life you were meant to live.

Enhance the Emotional Intimacy in Your Relationship!!!

The degree of emotional intimacy is an excellent barometer for evaluating the health of a relationship. It’s difficult to have a good relationship with poor emotional intimacy or a poor relationship with a high degree of emotional intimacy.

Grow your emotional intimacy and strengthen your bonds of love:

1.   Exercise together. We maintain intimate relationships with those with whom we share challenging times, whether it be surviving a horrible boss or training for a marathon. Spend time together doing yoga sessions (partner yoga), running or walking . Sweat and suffer together. Your bond will grow.

2.  Let go of your past. Most of the obstacles to being more intimately connected are rooted in the past. Learn from the past and be done with it. Everyone has been hurt at some point. That’s not a valid reason to spoil today. Let it go.

3.  Share your appreciation for each other. Before turning off the light for the night, share what you each appreciate about each other. List something you appreciated that day. It could be something small like folding your clean pants or stopping by the store for milk. We generally over a period of time stop paying attention to these small things !!!

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     You’ll be amazed by what happens. You’ll spend the day looking for things to appreciate  about your partner. You’ll eventually think that your partner has changed into an even  more amazing person. But the truth is that you’re the one who’s changed.

4. Touch each other daily. Sex counts, but Give each other a massage or snuggle together on the couch. Hold hands. 

5.  Be a positive experience for your spouse. Studies have shown that we’re more sensitive to negative experiences than we are to positive. The ratio is roughly 5:1. It takes five positive experiences to negate the impact of one negative experience.

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        Try to deliver at least 10 positive experiences for each negative experience so your bond  is ever-growing.

6.    Be a better listener. We adore the people in our lives who take the time to listen intently to what we have to say. Look you partner in the eye when they’re speaking to you .Turn off the TV.Put your cell phone away. Avoid interrupting.

7.   Explore something new together. Take class or a hike in a new location. Read the same book and share your thoughts. Attend a concert together. Take a trip to someplace new. Be creative and share a new experience together.

8.   Be the best possible version of yourself. By being at your best, you’ll have more to give. Have a few goals and spend time each day striving to achieve them. Take care of yourself physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

9.   Show an interest in your partner’s life. This goes beyond being a good listener. Be inquisitive and ask your partner about the day. Show a genuine interest.

It’s easy to be emotionally intimate at the beginning of a meaningful relationship. Emotional intimacy can be more challenging after 10 years have taken their toll. Emotional intimacy must be encouraged to grow or it will die. Make emotional intimacy a priority in your relationship.

Relationship Matters- Deal with Loneliness in your Marriage!

Marriage evolves over time, and loneliness can be an issue. Although it may seem unusual that a married couple could experience loneliness, this is actually a common phenomenon. 

It’s time to talk with and share your feelings. It’s important that your partner understands that you feel alone and unhappy. Avoid placing blame or guilt during the conversation so nobody feels attacked. Instead, you want to listen and understand each other concerns.

Choose an appropriate time for the conversation. If you’re both angry and upset about other things in your life, then it’s not the best time to bring this up.

A busy lifestyle is a common complaint among couples who struggle with loneliness in their marriages. Work, kids, and other obligations can quickly fill your time. However, it’s important to find room in your schedule to focus on your marriage. Make your marriage a priority.

You don’t have to go on a fancy vacation or quit your job. Instead, you can make small changes each day that will bring you closer together.

Date night is just one part of the plan to eliminate loneliness in your marriage. Find small gestures throughout the week that make you both feel loved and special.

Leave each other sweet notes as you pack lunch. Buy each other small gifts or tackle the to-do list without being prompted. These little gestures can build up over time and make the loneliness vanish.

It’s important to understand that you can’t reverse time and go back to the marriage of your past. You’ve both changed and evolved as human beings since you walked down the aisle. You want to acknowledge these changes and embrace them. 

It’s normal for couples to have different dreams and goals over time. This doesn’t mean their marriage is over and that they’re doomed to loneliness. You can make adjustments and reconnect with each other.

Part of loneliness comes from feeling like "I don’t have enough support at home.I am handling everything, and my partner doesn’t seem interested in helping." This issue occurs frequently among couples. It’s a delicate matter because you want to share responsibilities.

A person’s past experiences influence their marriage in many ways thus involve each other the next time when you have to make a decision about the kids or bills. Invite each other to share opinions and ask questions.You don’t have to put pressure on each other the first couple of times. Instead, make suggestions and listen to each others ideas.

This is why communication is the key. You have to take the initiative and ask for help.

You may also want to create a family schedule and hang it up in a prominent part of the house. You can assign chores and let each other know where you need help too.

Vulnerability is a key part of marriage, and it’s important to share your concerns.

It’s possible that one is very lonely in the marriage, but too scared to bring it up. This type of confession isn’t easy!! Start by sharing your own thoughts and gently ask if your partner feels the same way.

By being vulnerable and honest with your partner, you can build a stronger bond.

Marriage also depends on a relationship that is able to withstand change. You can eliminate the loneliness by working together. It may take some time and effort, but the results will be worth it.

It’s essential that you stop blaming yourself. These feelings are actually a signal that you’re ready for a change. Shift your focus to solutions, instead.

Many marriages on the brink of falling apart have been saved by thoughtful partners who made a commitment to change.

Instead of comparing your marriage to your friends, focus & work on ways to reconnect. You can use your creativity to save your marriage.