Effort Is Never Wasted

 We often measure effort by outcomes.

Did it work?

Did it succeed?

Did it give the result I hoped for?

And when the answer is no, disappointment creeps in. We start questioning the time, energy, and heart we invested. But here’s a powerful truth:

Effort is never wasted — even when the results are not what we expected.

Every attempt teaches you something.

Every failure sharpens your awareness.

Every setback strengthens your emotional muscle.

The job you didn’t get builds resilience.

The relationship that didn’t work deepens your understanding.

The project that failed improves your skills.

Effort shapes you in ways success sometimes cannot.

Success gives you validation.

Effort gives you growth.

When you show up, try again, push through discomfort, and refuse to quit on yourself — you are becoming more educated, more experienced, and stronger. That inner evolution is invisible, but it is powerful.

Results may disappoint you.

But growth never betrays you.

So keep going.

Not just for the outcome —

but for the person you are becoming along the way. 🌱

Rebuilding Self Worth for Women

 Self-worth is:

“I am valuable — even when I am imperfect, rejected, or not performing.”

Many women confuse being useful with being worthy.

Self-worth must move from “what I do” → to “who I am.”

Confidence grows when we keep small promises to ourselves.

Each time she follows through, her brain registers:

“I can trust myself.” Self-trust → self-respect → self-worth.

Self-worth grows in compassionate internal dialogue.

Every time a woman:

• Tolerates disrespect
• Over-explains
• Over-apologizes
• Says yes when she means no

Self-worth weakens.

Teach this mantra to self : 

“If it costs me my peace, it is too expensive.”

Boundaries are not aggression. They are proof of self-value.

Self-worth is not built by positive thinking.

It is built by:

• Keeping promises to yourself
• Setting boundaries
• Healing emotional wounds
• Expanding identity
• Acting despite fear

Healthy Coping Mechanism to Calm yourself !

 We experience challenges , changes and unexpected life turns every single day , which may make us jittery and we may lose our calm !

So what exactly we do to cope with this stress - each one over period of time have identified different ways of calming ourselves maybe listen to music, art , meditation , reading a book etc ! 

But what is the most important thing is to Get to the right state of mind, one that actually allowed us to move forward with our lives, this requires mindful practice

When you find yourself facing a disheartening reality your emotional reaction might be to deny the situation, or to avoid dealing with it altogether. But by doing so you’re inadvertently holding on even tighter to the pain that you wish to let go of — you’re, in effect, sealing it up inside you.

We need to learn to open to the painful feelings and emotions you have — with time you will find out that it’s not comfortable, but you can still be fine and you can still step forward. Openness means you don’t instantly decide that you know this is only going to be a horrible experience — it means you admit that you don’t really know what the next step will be like, and you’d like to understand the whole truth of the matter. 

if you want life TO BE HAPPIER, you must change YOUR THINKING.

The secret to happiness and peace is letting every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be,and making the best of it by accepting and adapting ! 

Remember, you alone get to choose what matters and what doesn't.

The meaning of everything in your life has precisely the meaning you give it.

What is most Important in Life - Dedicated to All StepDads 😊

Fathers Day jus being around, it’s the right time to pen my thoughts and dedicate this post to all the Step Dads ..

There is a reason why I have written stepdad as they have to really put that extra effort to win the heart of the kids who are not there’s !!!

We grow up but the things that affect us as human beings don’t change and one of the most important relationship is of Father- Kids or Dads - Kids - isn’t it !

My son and his step dad cherish their human connection, they have built such a strong fondness for each other and take care of each other with kindness and affection ❤️ 

This has left such a wonderful experience with my son that he in the future wants to have a big family of his own and takes care of his real kids like his step dad does for him. 

One of the easiest ways to tell if the father and kid are in a healthy relationship is whether they act as a Cheerleader for each other 

Do the father or son are ridiculing each other as they grow up making each other weak and worthless or they help each other to Rise up with lots of encouragement ,,, 

The duo communicates with each other on how much they love each other giving strength to each other …

They appreciate each other by doing small things for each other daily…

They accept each other as they are which gives them the confidence around other outside people who may. not understand their relationship …

They are best friends in need and seeing my son and his step dad laughing, giggling and getting irritated with each other at time ——  confirms the feeling that good people really do exist !

Love and spread the cheers Happy Fathers Day Aryan and Devansh 

Hope it’s not too late !!!!!

For some things in Life you should not feel Hope it’s not too late !!!!


Listen to your intuition ....breathe and follow your heart ❤️


Stop living for other people and their opinions. Be true to YOU.


In every situation do your best.... once you know better than do better !


Stay patient and stay positive


Just give what you can. No one has ever become poor by giving.


If you’re lucky enough to have a body that’s in good health, be wise enough to keep it that way.


It’s often our thinking that hurts us ...so not limit your thinking


Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how it’s meant to be.


Actions always speak louder than words. So work hard in silence, and let your success be your noise.


You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. That’s life.

Enjoy !!!

Who shined the spotlight on the reality...???

 Do you know the answer to the Title ? 

Yes , COVID did so ...we got back to basics making our lives simpler , isn’t it !!! 

We Changed our focus. – We realised that the happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. The mind is where half of the things you thought were going to happen, never did happen. But if you allow these thoughts to dwell in your mind, they will succeed in robbing you of peace, joy, and ultimately your life. You will think yourself into a nervous breakdown, into depression, and into defeat. Because, to a great extent, you are what you think.

A beautiful day always begins with a beautiful mindset. When you wake up, take a second to think about what a privilege it is to simply be alive and healthy.The moment you start acting like life is a blessing, I assure you it will start to feel like one

We accepted and Fought today's battles ONLY. – No matter what’s happening, anyone can efficiently fight the battles of just one day. It’s only when you add the battles of those two abysmal eternities, yesterday and tomorrow, that life gets overwhelmingly complicated. 

We started to catch up on sleep, made time for fun and laughter, eating healthy enough to maintain peak energy levels, and making time for recovery from the pressures of life.

We Respectfully care less. – Today, I challenge you to make this your lifelong, daily motto: “I respectfully do not care.” Say it to anyone who passes judgment on something you strongly believe in or something that makes you who you are.

People will inevitable judge you at some point anyway, and that’s OK.You may not be able control all the things people say and do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Make that decision for yourself today. 

So let’s continue with these 3 things to make our life simple even after things go back to normal 

Tuning Out the Noise !!

Self-reflection and personal growth are things many of us tend to leave out of our daily routines 

My article always promotes positive self-talk and could help empower others to develop their own growth mindset that they can apply now as well as to future adversities life will undoubtedly throw at them.

With social distancing and slow down as we are now working from home this is the best thing to do – Journaling your thoughts and feelings!

There is nothing immediately exciting about forcing yourself into self-reflection through journaling for a short time every day, but by doing so, i assure that we will have better lives.

We teach our kids to make notes for whatever is important in school, at workplace we make important notes so then why not make a Journal of your own thoughts and feelings!

The mind needs to be trained to gain strength.It needs to be worked consistently to grow and develop over time.And that’s precisely what a daily ritual of journaling will gradually allow us to achieve...

You can write down what you did today, what you tried to accomplish, where you made mistakes, and so much more.

You can capture your thoughts on the below pointers in your Journal , choose different ones for different days 

1. Whats stressing you out today? And what can you do to improve your response?
2. What can you do to ease your mind today?
3. What do you love about your present life circumstances?
4. What brings you peace and why?
5. Whats one privilege you have that your'e taking for granted?
6. How can you better accept the discomfort that you may be experiencing?
7. What can you let go right now without losing a thing!
8. What small step you have been thinking to take far too long?
9. Whats something you take too personally?
10. How will you remind yourself to ease your expectations today?
11. Who was the last person who was kind to you and what did you do to be kind to others?
12. How will you choose yourself today?
13. What has your inner wisdom been trying to tell you?
14. What does a new beginning mean to you today?
15. What an old pattern of behavior you would like to change?

So lets take out 5 mins each day and capture our important thoughts and feelings!